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It has been 2.5 years since I last did an episode for Public Speaking Power. Now I am back and here are my plans for the future.
Hi and welcome back to Public Speaking Power. It has been a long two and a half years since I’ve created a serious episode for publicspeakingpower.com but I’m back and I’m back with a vengeance. I’m excited to have you here as my audience. I’m excited to be here to present to you guys and to teach you as much as I can about public speaking.
I have a lot of unique experiences and a lot of unique thoughts on public speaking. I go against the grain in terms of what some experts say, the way a lot of people approached teaching public speaking. That makes it really exciting for me to be able to share these ideas with you guys, to be able to connect with all of you and hopefully help you on your journey to become a public speaker.
When I created Public Speaking Power all those years ago my life was very very different. I was working a full-time job as a pharmaceutical rep. Originally, I was doing sales over the phone and then I ended up doing sales in person, doing presentations to pharmacy staff and things like that.
I was doing some public speaking but I wasn’t doing a great deal. It was more one-on-one sort of sales staff I would do presentations to and things like that. I was young. I still am young, I’m only twenty-eight but I was passionate about public speaking. However, I didn’t really have my thoughts formed about how I thought public speaking should be taught or have ideas about how is the best way to go about public speaking, etc. Fast forward two and a half years to where we are today.
Two and a half years ago I quit my six-figure full-time job to work for myself online to run websites which is what I do originally. That started out as blog post but that soon progressed into podcast and into videos. Now I spend basically all my days creating videos, creating content, speaking to people about a whole different range of subjects – everything from property investing in Australia to my favourite game which is Super Smash Brothers Melee to public speaking to a whole bunch of different smaller websites that I have. T
herefore I spent a lot of time creating episodes and presenting content. In order to do that, I decided to cut down on the editing time and the things that I do. So most of the content I create if not all of it, I created in one go and I create a lot of it off the cuffs. I might write a basic outline but I don’t even have an outline for this episode but I may write a basic outline and follow that. But I would not write out a speech. I give a lot of presentations where I’m talking off the cuffs or I just have a rough guideline that I’m going to use.
Over those two and a half years I created hundreds of videos and my public speaking has improved. I feel like I’m at the point now where I’ve got something that I can add to the public speaking community. That I’ve got something that I can add to your content base, inspire you guys and help you think more differently about public speaking or become more passionate about it as well. This episode is really just kind of a very casual podcast episode where I’m telling you guys about me coming back to Public Speaking Power and talking about what I’m going to do.
The plans that I have for public speaking at the moment aren’t going to be creating video and audio content. I will get those transcribed which will go on the blog but the focus is definitely around the presentations. If you like public speaking, chances are you are going to want to watch public speaking. More and more of us are watching videos these days anyway so that makes a lot of sense to do that. Plus, that’s how I create content. I will be creating a lot of videos. The content will be mostly just me talking. There will be some interviews in there but these are mainly as people approach me to be interviewed and to get access to the audience.
Public Speaking Power gets so many people coming to it. We’re talking about thousands of people every single day. So you guys deserve some fresh content. You guys deserve some good content. There’ll be some interviews, there’ll be some stuff that I create just from my own knowledge and what I think people know about. I will be taking questions as well and specifically answering people’s questions or creating episodes around people’s questions.
For example, someone said one of the issues they have is that they have a really shaky voice. People need to learn how to talk slow when giving a speech. Someone wants to know how to deliver content more effectively. Someone wants help with PowerPoint presentations. Someone else wants help with persuasive speaking.
The questions that are coming from the community are so powerful in guiding me in terms of the content that I create for you guys. If you are listening to this and if you have ideas of episodes you would like integrated or questions that you have, please get in contact with me. Just go over to the website at www.publicspeakingpower.com and hit the contact bar and get in contact with me to let me know. I will be creating content for questions. I’ll be creating content from things that I know people should know about; that I know people is searching for, etc.
There is a lot of great stuff coming down the pipeline. I don’t have a set schedule at the moment of how much speaking I’ll be doing and of how often I’ll be releasing these episodes. However, I’m hoping that it will build up over time and eventually we’ll have something every single week for Public Speaking Power. We will see how it goes. It’s a little side project for me but it is not the main focus of my online business as it doesn’t generate the bulk of my income or anything like that.
It is never going to be the pure focus of my business. We are not going to see daily episodes or anything like that but it is a little side owner for me and it is something that I want to expand. There are so many people coming that I want to help you guys out. I am not a perfect public speaker.
I just want to say that I do not dress up for the occasion. As a result, a lot of times especially in my older videos my framing was really poor. If you are watching the video you will see that I am super close to the camera. You basically only see my head and I often have scruffy hair. At the moment I just had a haircut and so it’s nice and short on the sides but often it would scruffy. I wear casual clothing. I do not dress up as that is not who I am. I’m 28 years old and I am a vegetarian, almost vegan. I got three kids and I home schooled one of my kids. I am a very cosy kind of guy. I play a video game competitively.
I’m quite a random person and not someone who dresses up in a suit and a tie and that’s not someone that I’m going to be to you. Therefore, if you’re looking for someone that is going to dress up and give you formal presentations and things like that, I’m not your man. However, if you want someone who is passionate about public speaking, someone who knows a lot about how to present, someone who presents a lot online, who gives a lot of videos, who has experience presenting in person, if you want to learn from someone that believes in public speaking as a communication forum then you should stay tune because this is for you.
However, if you want hoity-toity, if you want me to wear a tie, unfortunately that’s not going to happen. You can try but it’s not going to happen. I do wear ties to weddings so if I have to give a presentation at a wedding you will see me in a tie. Otherwise, I will rarely wear a tie and I don’t think that’s going to change anytime soon.
I’ll be talking about how to communicate effectively which is what I believe public speaking is. I’m not too focused on your appearance and things like that. I’m more focused on you being yourself which is how I believe people need to get their message across by being themselves. That’s the most effective way to do it and I will be talking about that in upcoming episodes.
I want to take this time to welcome you back to Public Speaking Power. I’m excited to be here again. We got a new website designed over publicspeakingpower.com which you can go ahead and check out. There is a free crash course there if you’re interested in learning more about public speaking. Otherwise, just hit subscribe either on YouTube or iTunes.
I look forward to sharing more information with you in upcoming episodes. In these episodes, I’m going to be talking about, “How to speak less ordinary.” That is going to be my tagline for the foreseeable future. How to speak less ordinary – that’s what I want to get across to you guys. I don’t want you to be boring, ordinary public speakers. I want you to be lively engaging that people really feel like they are with you. That’s it from me. So until next time, be less ordinary
I am passionate about helping and coaching people to become better public speakers. But I don’t necessarily do it in the structured way that Toastmasters or our school system might teach us.
So today I want to deconstruct the coaching process and give some tips to people out there who may be coaching others about how they can become better and more effective speakers.
The majority of these methods are actually taken from Tim Ferris – the author of The Four Hour Work Week. He is a professional at learning things very quickly and I’ve taken the way that he goes about learning new skills and applied it to public speaking to help you be a more effective speech coach.
Tip#1: Question best practices
Just because people have been taught the same way every single time doesn’t mean that it’s the best way to teach.
Questioning best practices can help our students accelerate and learn faster.
A best practice in public speaking is to focus heavily on technique. We do this by doing two things.
We firstly study the greatest speeches of all time. We break them down and analyse their techniques. We learn about pauses and repetition and using metaphors and stories. And then we try and teach our students to add these into their own speeches.
But what if we didn’t follow this progression? What is we changed the way that we taught people public speaking?
We will later look at the notion of sequencing but I believe that the way that we teach people is not the way that we should be going about doing it.
Changing the order of the way we teach people can actually help to build confidence. And that is probably the biggest thing we need to teach people.
Tip#2: Establish a base line
We want to establish the competency of our students.
We want to understand where they’re at in their level of public speaking. You can do this in a number of ways.
But I suggest that the best way is two-fold and both would be while filming them on camera.
The first thing would be to get them to deliver a prepared speech of three to five minutes. Use that as a baseline of their speaking skills. How much do they refer to notes? How much do they say “umm” and “uhh”? How much do they stammer?
And the second thing would be to get them to give an impromptu speech of approximately two minutes and measure how well they did when they were put on the spot.
Obviously there’s a myriad of different ways that you can measure their ability. It’s up to you how you go about doing that. But that’s what I would recommend and something that I’ve found to be effective.
Deconstruction is so important in public speaking because so often we fail to realise that public speaking is actually a multidimensional task.
We don’t just get up and public speak. It’s not one thing that we do.
We need to learn how to prepare our speeches. We need to learn how to deliver our speeches. We need to learn how to pause. We need to learn how to avoid stuttering. We need to learn how to use body language. We need to learn how to move across the stage. We need to learn how to hold a microphone and many other things as well.
So deconstructing the many skills that we need to learn can help our students become better public speakers.
It is the same as learning to drive a car. Your teacher hopefully deconstructed the driving process for you. You’d learn one step and then the next. You’d progress from straight lines to turning, from back roads to highways. You slowly build up to the big leagues.
Look at every single aspect of public speaking and deconstruct it so you can teach your students each individual aspect.
Don’t just throw it all at them at once. Give them a chance to learn some parts of it and then move up to the next parts.
Tip#4: Use the “80/20” Rule
The 80/20 rule states that 80% of the results that we get come from 20% of the work that we put in.
I believe that same is true for public speaking. 80% of our improvement will come from 20% of our practise. Breaking down public speaking and focussing on the things that are most important will help to bring your students up to a very high standard.
Use the 80/20 rule and deconstruct all the facets of public speaking. Break them down into just a few tasks and I believe that we can teach public speaking more effectively.
Sequencing refers to changing the order that we teach people.
The way that I learned in school involved talking about technique and then watching some professional speeches. We would then deconstruct those speeches and look at the different techniques that they used.
We started with technique and then talked about body language. We talked about how to structure your speech. And then it all concluded at the end with me needing to stand up in front of a crowd and give my first speech. It was absolute mayhem.
Public speaking is a skill that we learn. It’s not something academic that you can just take from books. You need to practise.
And by changing the sequence of things I believe that we can learn more effectively.
The way I learned to become a decent public speaker was to start by recording podcasts sitting down. I didn’t have to worry about moving. I didn’t have to worry about body language. The majority of my first podcasts were never published online. They were only for me.
I then progressed from podcasts to “talking head videos”. I filmed myself from the shoulders up. You can never see my hands so I got to focus on just my facial expressions and getting used to the camera.
Moving from podcasts to speaking heads and then further back allowed me to progress through the different facets of public speaking.
Break it down and structure your learning sequence. Your students can learn better and you can be a better speech coach.
Tip#6: Practice without stakes
Those first coaching appointments are going to be some of the most important moments that you have with your students.
Often people have shaky confidence and fear when they start. A great way to overcome this is to create what Tim Ferris calls “no stakes learning environments“.
These are environments where you can’t make mistakes with no repercussions.
It’s like learning cooking techniques. You don’t start with the sharpest knife. You use a lettuce knife – no risk of cutting yourself and all the freedom to learn.
We can do the same for public speaking. Don’t get your student to practise and then speak in front of an audience straight away.
Instead help them to practise in no stakes learning environments. They could record themselves in the comfort of their own homes. They could speak one-on-one with you if they are comfortable to do that. You could even turn your back and not face them when they first present so they’re not worried about you watching them.
Tim Ferris recommends that the first five lessons need to be in that no stakes environment before we move up to things that have meaning.
Tip#7: Build incentives
Once we’ve gone through the no stakes process we can then look at building incentives.
Tim recommends a site called Stickk.com. Here you can pledge a certain amount of money to a charity that you would hate for your money to go to. That money is contained. You then allocate someone you trust to be a referee.
And if you grow and acquire the skill then you can get the money back or give it to a charity of your choice. But if you fail then that money goes to your unfavoured charity.
Money is a massive motivator so that’s one way that we can build incentives into our coaching. Or you can create your own incentives if you can think of some.
Tip#8: Always choose positive feedback
There was a psychological study that was done with two soccer teams.
One team was trained with standard constructive criticism. “You didn’t kick the ball correctly because… Here’s what you can do better next time.”
The second team focussed only on positive feedback. They would look for opportunities within the team to praise someone for a skill well done. This not only uplifted the praised player but also help the rest of the team to understand how they could take that person’s praised skill and apply it to themselves.
So don’t simply tell your public speaking student that they’re doing something wrong. Instead go online and find examples of people who do a skill really well. Sit down with your student and ask them to observe how they use pauses or how they command the stage or how they use body language.
Focus on what people do well and reinforce your student with positive affirmation on the things that they do well.
Speech coaching is extremely valuable. I hope that these speech coaching tips have helped you to understand how you can be more confident in teaching your students and how you can build your students’ confidence and skills faster by doing things in a non-traditional manner.
We celebrated my sister’s wedding recently where my Dad delivered a great Father of the Bride speech. It was funny and well delivered and brought tears to some eyes as well.
And so I spoke to him about how he went about creating that speech and what tips he could offer to any other dads out there who need to create a Father of the Bride speech.
Tip#1: Address the formalities
There are some aspects of the Father of the Bride speech that you need to address.
Traditional Father of the Bride speeches would once have involved reading out telegrams from absent guests. We don’t get many telegrams these days but it is still important to read out congratulatory messages and well-wishes from anyone who couldn’t attend the wedding.
You should also extend your gratitude to the guests who are present. Thank everyone on behalf of the bride and groom for being there and thank them from travelling from their homes – particularly if they are from interstate or overseas.
Other standard aspects of the Father of the Bride speech involve things like complimenting the bridesmaids and checking with the bride as to what she wants – or doesn’t want – included in the speech.
Tip#2: Speak about the happy couple
Then you have to welcome the groom into the family. Speak about the groom and your feelings towards him as the man in your daughter’s life.
You would then progress to talking about your daughter herself. Offer the couple compliments and extend your good wishes for their future together.
Tip#3: Give yourself plenty of time
Don’t leave your Father of the Bride speech until last minute. This is something that you should start working on as soon as possible.
A good idea is to decide on the central theme and to then structure the rest of your speech around that idea.
Think of it as a jigsaw puzzle. You have your main concept or the picture of what you want to present. Bring in all the different elements – the formalities of thanking people and welcoming the groom into the family and talking about your daughter and so forth – and put the pieces together.
Tip#4: Use humour and poignancy
A little bit of humour can be a great aspect of a Father of the Bride speech.
A few humorous remarks will be well-received and can show your enthusiasm for the event. One way to do this is through the stories that you tell.
Stories about your daughter and her soon-to-be husband will hopefully come naturally. Speak from the heart and talk about what elements of the bride and groom you most admire.
Remember – the Father of the Bride speech should compliment the couple. The Best Man may tell embarrassing stories or poke fun, but the cringe-factor is not for the dad.
End on a fairly poignant note if you can.
Ideally your speech will be short and sharp. You want to be within a three to five minute timeframe. Remember that there will be a lot of speeches at a wedding.
Tip#5: Familiarise yourself with your speech
Don’t push yourself to memorise the entire speech if you can’t. You can easily provide yourself with notes and cue-cards to guide yourself through the speech.
But you should definitely be familiar with speech so that you can offer a smooth and confident delivery.
One way to do this is with your mobile phone or other recording device. Read from your notes and record yourself speaking. Then play it back to yourself. This is a great way to hear if things aren’t flowing consistently or if you’re speaking too fast or too slow.
Tip#6: Practise with someone else
You obviously want your speech to be a surprise for the bride and groom. But it’s a good idea to practise in front of someone else. This could be your spouse or another child or a good friend.
Speaking in front of somebody will help you recognise when something doesn’t flow. You can also benefit from any advice that they have to offer.
Don’t be afraid to change your speech if something isn’t quite working. But also don’t feel like you have to change your speech. Accept or reject the advice as you see fit. Ultimately the Father of the Bride speech will be your own.
Tip#7: Have two copies of your speech
It’s always good to have a back-up plan. You don’t want to be caught unaware if something should go missing. Have two neatly-written copies of your speech and keep track of where they are at all times!
And don’t rely on your mobile phone or any other device. It’s always safer to have a paper-copy of your speech.
Another good idea is to bump up the font size. Do anything that will make giving your speech easier for you.
Tip#8: Use pauses
You need to pause for reaction.
This is not only important in getting a laugh from your jokes but also in building emotion.
Tip#9: Use eye contact
Look at the groom when you’re speaking about the groom. Like at the bride when you’re speaking about the bride. And try to look around the room in general as you’re talking.
This will help to engage the audience and communicate your message.
Tip#10: Hold the alcohol
Save the glass of red until after the speech.
You want to have a clear head as you’re speaking. You will have earned a drink when you’re finished!
Feel free to get in touch if you have any more questions about creating your Father of the Bride speech. My email is email@example.com. I’ll be happy to forward any questions or advice on to my Dad.
Today we will be looking more into Toastmasters and how you can be involved in its various speaking competitions.
Toastmasters hold competitions all around the country and the world. Ultimately the best of the best would be crowned in a final international competition. But there are a lot of other options.
My father entered the “Tall Tales” competition at his local Toastmasters. It was his first time competing and he actually won against an undefeated member. His speech about “how to catch a haggis” – a legendary three-legged Scottish creature – was delivered at their regular meeting and was very well received.
This competition was held locally in the club. Toastmasters will offer many of these types of competitions on many different topics.
Often these competitions will take the place of the meeting’s usual proceedings and will be undergone instead of the regular activities or speeches.
Any number of members can volunteer to compete. Often outside guests will be brought in to judge the speeches. And fellow members can provide valuable feedback on your presentation.
The local Toastmasters competitions are less formal than international competitions. But they are still a lot of fun and offer you great public speaking experience.
There are a lot of different Toastmasters competitions that the more competitive members can undergo.
The usual procedure involves winning the local clubs’ competitions. Then you would compete to win the zone competition and work your way up to the international competition held in the U.S.
There are a number of competitions held throughout the year on a number of different topics.
An example is the popular “Humorous” competition. If you’ve got a funny story to tell you could enter into this one. Winning the humorous competition could take you through to the zone and national levels – and maybe even further.
There’s also an impromptu speaking competition. All competitors are given the same question and the same amount of preparation time.
It’s also worth noting that in my father’s club, one member – who’d gotten to the international finals but had not attended the club for twenty-five years – returned and won several competitions.
It goes to show that the skills gained at Toastmasters truly do stay with you for life.
Your first step is obviously to go to Toastmasters and become a member.
Competitions will come up naturally and you can speak to your group about which competitions you can get involved in. You could also participate in several different competitions if you become a member of more than one club.
And don’t forget that you can attend the competitions without competing. You are allowed to go and watch the speeches. This is a great way to learn more about the competitions and about public speaking in general.
Listen to the advice given in the evaluation and apply that to your own speeches. This is a great way to learn and to grow as a speaker.
If you’re thinking about going to Toastmasters, take that first step and go. Go as a guest and check it out because you certainly won’t look back. It will stand you in good stead for the rest of you life.
Many people are nervous when they start. But keep at it and you could find yourself competing in the States.
My father is a Toastmaster and I spoke with him recently to learn more about how the Toastmasters meetings work.
So how do things progress and how do we learn more about public speaking once we become a member?
You grow in confidence with Toastmasters from Day One.
The membership fees are very reasonable. It costs $35 for six months to join. You can then attend as many or as few of that club’s meetings as you wish.
Every Toastmasters club is different. This is why it’s a good idea to look around and see which Toastmasters is best for you.
Different clubs will meet every week or fortnight or month.
Consider how fast you want to accelerate yourself or how much time you have. These are important factors when choosing your Toastmasters club.
You could also look at going to multiple clubs if you really wanted to speed up the process.
You then receive your first manual – “Competent Communication”.
That contains around ten speeches for you to work your way through.
The first one is quite simply called “The Ice Breaker“. It’s exactly what it sounds like. You stand up and talk to people about who you are so they can get an understanding of why you’re here and what you’re hoping to achieve.
And people come for different reasons. Some might be preparing for an upcoming wedding speech. Others may be trying to improve their work presentations. And some people simply want to gain more confidence in their everyday communications.
The second topic explores organising your speech. This involves structure – ensuring your speech has a clear beginning, middle and end.
The third topic is about finding your objective and getting to the core point of your speech without waffling on.
There are many other topics including using body language or visual aids.
Then after “Competent Communication” comes “Competent Leadership” and many other manuals. Each will strive to teach you important aspects of public speaking.
Essentially you will work through the list of contents in the various manuals and practise each of the skills being explored. The manuals provide advice and activities.
You then give a speech that utilises your new skills and you will be assessed. After working through these manuals you will have developed a fine understanding of the basics of public speaking.
Giving speeches at meetings
Usually four or five members will give speeches at each meeting. But there are many other roles to fill at Toastmasters.
Members have the chance to speak during Table Topics and to practise their impromptu speaking skills.
Someone will be needed to chair the formal business meetings held at the beginning. This is valuable experience for any member.
Or you might be sergeant of arms that week – in charge of setting up the lectern and making sure the supplies are filled.
There’s also the role of an evaluator. Evaluation is an important part of the club’s format. This provides the member with feedback on both the positive and negative aspects of their presentation and helps them build their confidence and skills.
Why go to Toastmasters?
Toastmasters will not only teach you how to become a better speaker but also how to obtain important skills involved in leadership and other effective communications skills.
It is a practical guide to becoming a better speaker and leader. They teach people how to be a leader because it’s such a good thing to have in life and to build that confidence.
The fact is that everyone is going to have to get up and speak in front of people at some point in their life. There would be very few people in the world who could avoid that. If you have kids then you’re got birthday parties and weddings. It pays to be prepared.
There is nothing else quite like Toastmasters.
It has a fairly simplistic structure. You can go as a guest and try your hand at impromptu speaking. You could then become a member if you choose to. And then you get the basic manual that takes you simply through the various steps.
And you’re getting help all along the way with salient advice and confidence-building feedback from your peers.
It’s a not-for-profit organisation that relies on and supports it members. It’s a lot of fun and a good outing where you can really improve your abilities. It will also give you a sense of community where you can build friendships for life.
Check out the Toastmasters website if you’d like more information. Or head on over to a meeting and ask more about it there.
I recently interviewed my father – a member and regular frequenter of Toastmasters – and got some information from him about what it would be like to go to one of these meetings for the first time.
I know there’s a lot of people who want to attend a toastmasters event but are too scared to actually go. The whole point of Toastmasters is to become more confident in public speaking so it really is a great thing to become involved in.
Here’s some information about what it is like to go to a Toastmasters meeting for the first time.
Toastmasters around the world
There are approximately 14,500 Toastmasters clubs in 122 countries around the world.
It’s a fairly big organisation that serves the purpose of instilling confidence. It brings people forward and helps them with their public speaking skills for both their working and personal lives.
There’s probably going to be a Toastmasters near you regardless of where you live.
Public speaking and learning how to do that is very important if we want to get ahead in life. Toastmasters is also a great way of meeting new people with a common interest. So do explore your area and see what you can find.
Finding a Toastmasters meeting could be as simple as doing a search on Google. Look around your local area. There might be three or four within your region.
You could otherwise find a friend or colleague who already participates. You could then attend a meeting as their invited guest. You don’t have to join the club in order to see what the meetings are like.
Be a guest of Toastmasters…
You would be introduced to the members of the meeting upon your arrival. But you then would have the option to speak and take part or to simply observe the proceedings. The choice is yours.
…Or show up alone
You don’t have to be a guest – or a member – in order to see what a Toastmaster meeting is like.
Many people will travel to different cities to see what their Toastmasters clubs are like and will be welcomed warmly.
You can just turn up at any club. And there is no need to RSVP. Just turn up!
Visit different Toastmasters Clubs
It’s a good idea is to look at a couple of different clubs before you join any. Some of the clubs are structured differently to others. Some are more formal and some are more informal. Some will have as few as six members and others could have over two dozen. There are also different zone meetings where things get bigger and you go down to different area competitions.
Go to a couple of clubs and see which one you like.
The thing about Toastmasters is that they will welcome you in with open arms. There’s no ownership of Toastmasters. It is owned by the members – the more, the merrier. They’re going to welcome you. It’s all about bringing people on.
There is no strict dress code at Toastmasters.
This could be affected by the clubs’ premises. My father’s Toastmasters meetings are held in a licensed RSL Club at Cronulla. So obviously you need to be fairly well presented when you turn up.
But it’s important to be comfortable. This will make you more confident.
Smart-casual is usually a good choice. You’ll feel comfortable and you’ll fit in easily.
Every club will have slightly different proceedings.
My father’s Cronulla Toastmasters meetings start with a fairly formal structure.
First is a business meeting. They look at correspondence and see what information has been sent in from Toastmasters International.
They will address any pressing issues. This could include things like raising money to buy a new microphone or discussing the filming of members’ speeches.
Then after the formalities are over they have “Table Topics”.
This activity is based on impromptu speaking. One of the Toastmasters for that week will have been given the task of preparing this. Every member gets an impromptu question and will speak about that topic for a minute and a half.
The overall topic might be “song titles” or “movie titles”. You then might get the title Batman. And you’d then stand up and speak for a minute and a half about the time you put on a Batman cape and jumped off the top of the wardrobe and broke your leg. Speak about anything that flows!
It’s the sort of thing that helps you in conversation when you’re out. Impromptu speaking makes you a bit of a conversationalist.
Again, guests and first-time attendees have the choice to opt-out of any activity that they don’t wish to participate in. But they are also free to stand up and have a crack at it.
After Table Topics there is normally a ten to fifteen minute break. People have a cup of tea and a general chat with fellow members.
And then you come back and that’s when the fun starts. They have about four speakers for the evening who would have worked their way through the various manuals.
The first manual is the complete communications manual. (We will go into more detail about the Toastmasters manuals in the next video.)
Each speaker will have their own topic and will give their speech. They will then be evaluated by another member in the Toastmasters group. They give you salient points on what you did well and what you could improve upon.
This will help you to build your confidence and become a better speaker over time.
After the meeting
At the end of the meeting the Toastmaster in charge will invite you to make a comment about the event. This is like an open forum where you can say as much or as little as you like.
Then you will likely speak with the VPE – the Vice President of Education – or someone who’s in charge of new members.
Obviously they would give you the option to go back as a guest a number of times to see if that’s the club you want to join.
And again I would stress that it’s probably advisable to have a look a couple of different clubs around where you are. You might find one where you just click with everybody.
Impromptu speaking is one of the best skills people can have because it helps to override one of the key fears associated with public speaking – the fear of stammering and failing and having nothing to say.
By becoming a great impromptu speaker you know that you can pick up the conversation from any point – no matter what happens.
A lot of people say they are too scared to go to Toastmasters. But that’s why they should go!
It really does give you the confidence to meet people. It’s not even just public speaking. It’s general discussions. It’s going out to a dinner party. It’s meeting a girl or a boy and striking up a conversation. It’s having the confidence to be able to stand and carry a conversation from beginning to end.
Toastmasters are very welcoming and offer a great environment where you can learn and better yourself as a public speaker. I hope that this information has given you the courage to go and check them out for yourself.
Using pauses during a public speech or presentation is an important way to engage the audience and to deliver your message effectively.
A lot of us fail to use pauses in the right manner and therefore we throw our audience off and lose their engagement throughout the presentation.
Pausing is something that we hate to do and something that we find very difficult during a presentation. Why is this the case and how can we effectively use pauses?
Why do we hate pauses?
When we pause during our everyday conversations we are indicating that someone else can begin talking. So we naturally use filler words – “umm” and “err” and “you know” – if we need to show that we have not yet finished speaking.
But the audience of your presentation is not going to talk back. These filler words are actually going to distract from the message that you’re trying to deliver.
So here are my twelve tips on how you can effectively use pauses during your public speech or presentation.
Tip#1: Recognise your filler words and phrases
Recognising when you’re saying “umm” and “err” and other filler words is the most important part to using pauses effectively.
Filling our pauses with words will feel and sound awkward and will prevent you from using pauses comfortably and effectively. Understanding when we use these filler words and removing them from our vocabulary will open up the opportunity to pause and create a better presentation.
Tip#2: Plan your pauses
Plan your pauses as you create your speech outline.
You could simply write (pause) to indicate when you want to pause during your speech. Planning your pauses in advance will help you use them in the right spots and use them effectively.
Tip#3: Pause to maintain your pace
Pauses are great if you feel like you’re talking too fast and can help you to maintain your pace.
Pausing for even half a second can calm you down and start to bring you back to a regular pace. This is turn will help your audience to understand and follow your message.
Adding one pause will get you more comfortable in adding further pauses. You’ll be able to maintain a constant speed of your presentation and you’ll avoid speaking too fast as many nervous speakers tend to do.
Tip#4: Pause if you lose your spot
Many people lose their spot and immediately panic. Sometimes they’ll even announce to their audience that they are lost.
Never do this. Instead calmly pause and give yourself a second to think. Then continue your presentation from where you left off.
Revealing to the audience that you’ve lost your place will make them feel like you’re not respecting their time. But pausing will allow you to calm down and give the crowd time to think.
Remember that they’re not consistently focussed on you. They’re living in their own heads and thinking about their own things. They likely won’t notice if you pause for a moment to find your place and calm your nerves.
Tip#5: Pause at your commas
A comma is a good time for you to pause.
Simply look at your speech in written form. If it would have a comma, why not pause?
Tip#6: Pause at the end of your sentences
The end of a sentence forms a natural point in your presentation where you can pause for a moment and then continue on.
A pause symbolises that you have finished your sentence and that you are now moving on to another one.
Tip#7: Pause at the end of your paragraphs
We can use short or longer pauses to symbolise when we’ve finished a paragraph.
These pauses indicate that we’re now moving on to another point or to a completely different topic. Pausing here will get your audience in the correct mind frame and make sure that you maintain their attention.
Tip#8: Pause for emphasis
Pausing for emphasis can be done in two ways.
You can pause between your words. This would be similar to: “Pause. For. Emphasis.”
Or you could simply pause for an extended period of time at the end of your important point.
Either way will direct your audience’s attention to the point that you just delivered. If you need to you can repeat the point and repeat the pause of emphasis.
Tip#9: Pause for rhetorical questions
“Who in this audience wants to be a millionaire?” Pausing here would be an important consideration.
Pausing at the end of a rhetorical question will give your audience time to think and time to answer the question in their own minds.
Tip#10: Start with a pause
Consider pausing for a moment at the start of your presentation rather than leaping straight into your speech.
You may want to use the power stance – legs slightly wider than shoulder-width apart and arms comfortably held at your side.
This pause will symbolise to the audience that you’re ready to start your presentation and will likely grab their attention.
This is not a practical tip for video presentations because people could easily click elsewhere if their attention is not immediately grabbed. But a pause at the beginning of your speech can be great when you’ve got the audience’s attention and their presence for a set amount of time.
Tip#11: Pause after a joke
Pausing after a joke will give people time to laugh or time to understand the punch line.
And don’t panic if no one laughs. Just end your pause and quickly move on.
Tip#12: Pause when you deliver a new slide
This is particularly useful if you’re using a PowerPoint or a Keynote Presentation or something similar.
Pause as you flick to a new slide. This will give people time to read that slide and absorb its message before you continue with your speech.
So there you have twelve tips about how to effectively use pauses during your public speech or presentation.
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